Support Through Community

I (Courtney) spent last weekend at a female-only family reunion. Every year, the women in my husband's family get together for a special weekend of bonding through spending time together. When I first married my husband, I thought it was such a unique thing that the women prioritized time together every year. They welcomed me into their circle, and each year since I've been part of this gathering, our group has grown.

This past weekend, as we discussed the challenges and celebrations in each of our lives over the past year, I was reminded of the importance of receiving support from others. Developmentally, women thrive in relationship with others, including community both with men and other women. I feel so fortunate to be able to receive wisdom from women of several generations, and these various perspectives offer me support in my variety of life roles.

I don't think we were made to go about our lives alone. Our species survived by forming tribes and communities, and it seems like our society is increasingly moving toward isolation, even with all the social networking opportunities available today. There is simply no connection like face-to-face interaction, no support that can be received like that of an in-person conversation. I think that is why therapy can be so meaningful, because of the relationship, particularly when therapy is part of an overall support community in someone's life.

If you feel you are lacking connection, I encourage you to reach out to old friends or family members. Look for groups in your area that interest you - common interests are a natural way to build connection. Make values-oriented decisions toward building community in your life. It takes some effort, but the pay-off is well worth it.